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launch forth into the deep.

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You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance — as opposed to her ideas or actions — isn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman’s looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she’s ugly, but everyone else thinks you’re an idiot.
Hilary Clinton says like an absolute legend. It’s a bit too normal how appearances are criticized and the degree to which such criticisms are perceived as valid. (via tourettes)

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"So… do you need an intern?"

You never know when you’re going to meet someone who will change your life.

As a graduate student in a new town, I’ve been searching for something that would both ground me in the local community and help me feel more positive about life. In addition to studying at random coffee shops across town, I decided to join a local yoga studio. For some reason, I enjoy the torture of holding difficult poses in a 90 degree room for 60 minutes at a time.

I digress. As I said, you never know when you’re going to meet someone. For those of you who know me, you know that I am very involved with the fraternity and sorority community. I am a volunteer in my own sorority and I am doing what I can to try to break into the field as a campus professional or consultant of some sort. Because of this involvement, I get a lot of free swag, including tote bags and water bottles.

I happened to bring one of these water bottles to my yoga class. In doing so, I had this secret hope that someone would say something about it one day… perhaps strike up a conversation and tell me that they’re part of the same sorority, or that they’re Greek themselves. It finally happened.

After the class was over, I dragged my sweaty self into the locker room to change clothes. A woman who was just as sweaty as me was the one who started the conversation.

“Are you in the sorority at Colorado State?” she asked with a smile.

“No,” I replied. “I’m an alumna volunteer. I’m just still really involved.” I replied somewhat bashfully, as I am used to people thinking I’m weird for “still being in a sorority” (it’s not four years, it’s for life, people).

She goes on to tell me that she works with several of the largest conferences and leadership development programs related to fraternities and sororities in the United States… and that her firm is in town.

Here, in the middle of this sweaty locker room, I hug her and practically jump for joy that there was (1) a woman who cared about the fraternity and sorority community as much as I did and (2) that her day job was my actual dream job. Naturally, I asked if she wanted to have coffee.

Thankfully, she agreed and we met up a couple of weeks later. As the meeting came to a close, I knew I had to do something. I couldn’t let the opportunity pass. So, I popped the question…

“Do you need an intern or anything this summer?”

Please, please, please say “yes.”

And… she did. I met with her and a colleague last week and we nailed down the specifics. It’s happening. 

After an activity I almost didn’t do that day, I met a kind woman who was willing to take a chance by asking me a question and starting a conversation. I later took another chance by asking if she needed an intern during the summer. I bet neither of us thought it would turn into coffee or a potential work relationship.

So often, finding the right job opportunity is about meeting the right people. I’m thankful I’ve had the kind of support in my life that helped me gain the courage I needed to ask an intimidating question. It’s moments like these that remind me to keep pushing and talking to people. 

You never know when you’re going to meet someone who will change your life.